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The Complications of Cheating

A friend of mine divulged an affair to me and I told her point blank to let the person go. I told her your partner deserves better treatment. If you have a little bit of self respect left, let them go and let them find happiness with another person who can make their happiness whole. Obviously, you don’t love the person if you can do the things you did.

I have always believed that to make any relationship work, trust is essential, if not, the ONLY factor to successful relationships.

With all my past relationships, I can truly say that I have not cheated on any of my boyfriends. Ever. I can look them straight in the eye and tell them that I was faithful while we were still together and I expect the same kind of loyalty.

However, if I discover and prove that I can no longer trust this person, then its time to move on. I will not waste my time. That is how I approach people and my relationships as a whole, always no nonsense.

I am a woman with very precious time and I have no plans of wasting it on senseless drama. I simply will not put up with it.

I don’t cheat, period. No matter what excuse or work around’s most people say about it: cheating is unacceptable.

Cheating are mind games. Do you want to be in a relationship where mind games weigh heavy on both your shoulders?

If a person is in a co-dependent relationship, he or she will accept anything the partner does regardless if it is right or wrong (even putting up with affairs, etc.) because they don’t think they will find any other person to love/adore/shower with affection as the person they are with. They are okay with settling with what they have. And this is where psychological manipulation comes knocking.

Either the cheater or the cheated on uses psychological manipulation (GUILT) to use against the person they are supposedly ‘in-love’ with.

Both parties will sooner or later get a corrupted idea of love: that love is dependency, abuse, and that love is a tool used to manipulate to get what one wants from the other person. The concept of love gets tainted with lies, mistrust, guilt, etc. This is not what love is.

Love, guilt and manipulation can’t live in the same house.

In my simple, pragmatic mind: Love is good, clean and pure. Why tarnish it? Why settle for such relationships? Don’t you think you deserve better treatment? Don’t you think you deserve the best kind of love than what your partner is offering and the best kind of love that you can give, as well?

I will never understand people who cheat or why some put up with it.

I am a simple person with a practical approach to things: Why make your life complicated?

We are in this world to live the best kind of life.

To genuinely love and be loved in return.

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3 thoughts on “The Complications of Cheating

  1. Yes, I agree with what you said and here I am one guilty person living a very complicated life. I was never like this. Things were never like this. However, I fell in love with my best friend, while I have a boyfriend with whom I have had a long-distance relationship since forever. Believe me, it happened like I don’t know, I could never realize that my bestest friendship with a boy other than my boyfriend could turn into love. And love is pious, beautiful, spiritual. But, it is also something you cannot control. You won’t understand, like the old me wouldn’t have, because you never faced something like this. Alas! It happens, it sucks as hell, but it happens!

    • Choosing that road will be filled with struggle and loneliness. I will pray for you dear. I hope you have the courage to make the tough but necessary decisions to get out of that hole your digging. May God bless and keep you.

  2. Pingback: Our Cheating Hearts | Cheri Speak

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