Category Archives: Family

Strength in Weakness

The past few weeks have been a constant struggle for me.

My faith is continuously put to the test. My endurance and tenacity are both wearing thin. I have been loosing sleep and though I would want to keep a positive outlook on things, at times, I can’t help but ask why me?

I am trying the best I can. My heart is filled with anger, so much anger right now. I feel it consuming me again.

I am just glad that I am surrounded by my accountability partners to keep me guided, focused and directed. Their patience and love for me, I don’t know where they get it but I am thankful for them. They help keep my path straight.

It’s funny how things work out. When things get rough, there will always be someone either calling me, taking me out to dinner, letting me spend the night or have someone deliver a special package to my building (you all know who you are). They just pop out of the blue. It’s like they know for some reason, it’s incredible. I don’t know, probably God is there to tell me to hang on a bit, and I do.

In your weakest, that’s when He’s doing His greatest work.

I pray that He give me the strength and courage to soldier on. Help me run the race, Lord. I need you now more than ever.

Keep Everything in the Family

Be careful of the people you let in to your family. Always question the motives of some people who seem to care too much, negating even their own comfort zones.

Remember: The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9).

Behind their motives, intentions, good deeds, ask “what’s in it for them?”

Always protect and guard your family at all costs.

Don’t let outsiders find a weakness in the very foundation that should be strong.

A Celebration of Hearts

I had the opportunity to be part of a wedding held in beautiful Nasugbu, Batangas.

From the bridal shower, to my accommodations, the fun road trip and finally the big event, it was a momentous occasion and a very hectic 3 days for me.

Featured here are some of my friends (sorry guys, you are now internet superstars haha) who were witnesses to such an intimate and solemn occasion.

Again, thank you for making me a part of this very important day in your life and I wish you all the happiness in the world.

Part 1: The Bridal Shower (aka Hen Party)

Thanks to the Maid of Honor for such a wonderful ( and completely accessorized) bridal shower.
Thanks to the Maid of Honor for such a wonderful ( and completely accessorized) bridal shower.
Introducing the Bride to be, Debs
Introducing the Bride to be, Debs
Enjoying my margarita...
Enjoying my margarita…
Thought bubble: "Interesting cake..."
Thought bubble: “Interesting cake…”

Part 2: Stay at BHotel, Alabang

Two stowaways with a packed Jollibee bag for my roomie.
Two stowaways with a packed Jollibee bag for my roomie.
I stuffed myself silly during breakfast. This was my second go at the buffet table. So happy! Thank you to our sponsors: Debs & Alex, haha! Taken at BHotel, Alabang
I stuffed myself silly during breakfast. This was my second go at the buffet table. So happy!
My roomie and I having breakfast at the hotel before heading out to Tagaytay. When the food is good, life is great ;-) Thank you to our sponsors, Deb and Alex.
My roomie and I having breakfast at the hotel before heading out to Tagaytay. When the food is good, life is great 😉 Thank you to our sponsors, Deb and Alex.

This is my second time to stay at this hotel, and I am always happy with their service, food and accommodations. If your ever in the Alabang area, check in at BHotel.

Part 3: Trip to Le Jardin Rosella, Cherry Blossoms Garden, Tagaytay for hair & make-up

This was taken at the house where the reception was taking place: Le Jardin Rosella
This was taken at the house where the reception was taking place: Le Jardin Rosella
My roomie and maid-of-honor, Sheena.
My roomie and maid-of-honor, Sheena.
Now I know where Deb gets her genes ;-) Here with the beautiful Mother of the Bride.
Now I know where Deb gets her genes 😉 Here with the beautiful Mother of the Bride.
Our Japanese-inspired dresses (but looking more like flight attendants, lol). Here with the rest of the entourage: Sheena and Gem (MIA: Liezel) Taken at Le Jardin Rosella, Cherry Blossoms Garden, Tagaytay
Our Japanese-inspired dresses (but looking more like flight attendants, lol). Here with the rest of the entourage: Sheena and Gem (MIA: Liezel)
Cute husband and wife team, RJ & Jihan. Taken at Le Jardin Rosella, Cherry Blossoms Garden, Tagaytay
Cute husband and wife team, RJ & Jihan.

Part 4: “The Walk”. Taken at Chapel on the Hill, Nasugbu Batangas

Featuring the solemn and picture perfect altar at Chapel on the Hill, Nasugbu Batangas
Featuring the solemn and picture perfect altar at Chapel on the Hill, Nasugbu Batangas
The couple's first dance.
The couple’s first dance.

The Complications of Cheating

A friend of mine divulged an affair to me and I told her point blank to let the person go. I told her your partner deserves better treatment. If you have a little bit of self respect left, let them go and let them find happiness with another person who can make their happiness whole. Obviously, you don’t love the person if you can do the things you did.

I have always believed that to make any relationship work, trust is essential, if not, the ONLY factor to successful relationships.

With all my past relationships, I can truly say that I have not cheated on any of my boyfriends. Ever. I can look them straight in the eye and tell them that I was faithful while we were still together and I expect the same kind of loyalty.

However, if I discover and prove that I can no longer trust this person, then its time to move on. I will not waste my time. That is how I approach people and my relationships as a whole, always no nonsense.

I am a woman with very precious time and I have no plans of wasting it on senseless drama. I simply will not put up with it.

I don’t cheat, period. No matter what excuse or work around’s most people say about it: cheating is unacceptable.

Cheating are mind games. Do you want to be in a relationship where mind games weigh heavy on both your shoulders?

If a person is in a co-dependent relationship, he or she will accept anything the partner does regardless if it is right or wrong (even putting up with affairs, etc.) because they don’t think they will find any other person to love/adore/shower with affection as the person they are with. They are okay with settling with what they have. And this is where psychological manipulation comes knocking.

Either the cheater or the cheated on uses psychological manipulation (GUILT) to use against the person they are supposedly ‘in-love’ with.

Both parties will sooner or later get a corrupted idea of love: that love is dependency, abuse, and that love is a tool used to manipulate to get what one wants from the other person. The concept of love gets tainted with lies, mistrust, guilt, etc. This is not what love is.

Love, guilt and manipulation can’t live in the same house.

In my simple, pragmatic mind: Love is good, clean and pure. Why tarnish it? Why settle for such relationships? Don’t you think you deserve better treatment? Don’t you think you deserve the best kind of love than what your partner is offering and the best kind of love that you can give, as well?

I will never understand people who cheat or why some put up with it.

I am a simple person with a practical approach to things: Why make your life complicated?

We are in this world to live the best kind of life.

To genuinely love and be loved in return.