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Don’t Forget About Me

I had dinner with a few friends a couple of days ago. The conversation moved from American politics, to alternative history then eventually, religion.

It makes me cringe that friends think I am a ‘religious’ person. I am not. In fact, I believe religion is the very reason that disconnects people from one another.

In that same dinner party, I was harmlessly put on the spot by our host.

After careful thought, he asked everyone “If Jesus Christ suddenly popped in this room, what would you say to him?”

I was taken aback. I have never been asked that question by my friends from Church, let alone in the midst of those who don’t know Jesus Christ that well.

He asked each and everyone of his guests. Most were statements and questions like “Why are you homophobic, God?”, or “If your God, why do you allow suffering?” or “I don’t understand the concept of celibacy of priests and nuns. Can you explain that, Jesus?”

Then eventually he turned his attention to me. I couldn’t speak. I was literally sinking in my seat.

“Paula, maybe you’de like to share your thoughts?”

I told him almost embarassingly, “Not me. Please don’t put me on the spot”.

“But have you thought about it? Do you have a question to ask Jesus?”

“Yes, I do. But it’s not a question.”

“But you don’t want to share it?”

Beaten, “No, not right now. I can’t. I’m sorry.”

When I got home that night, it took all my strength not to cry.

I felt like a failure. That was the best opportunity to share Him. To let Him be known. But I was too embarrassed and scared of what they would say and think of me and my “beliefs”.

Not being able to courageously talk about Him has the same weight as to deny Him.

“Then they seized him and led him away, bringing him into the high priest’s house, and Peter was following at a distance. And when they had kindled a fire in the middle of the courtyard and sat down together, Peter sat down among them. Then a servant girl, seeing him as he sat in the light and looking closely at him, said, “This man also was with him.” But he denied it, saying, “Woman, I do not know him.” And a little later someone else saw him and said, “You also are one of them.” But Peter said, “Man, I am not.” And after an interval of about an hour still another insisted, saying, “Certainly this man also was with him, for he too is a Galilean.” But Peter said, “Man, I do not know what you are talking about.” And immediately, while he was still speaking, the rooster crowed. And the Lord turned and looked at Peter. And Peter remembered the saying of the Lord, how he had said to him,“Before the rooster crows today, you will deny me three times.”And he went out and wept bitterly. “- Luke 22:54-62

I only get the chance to share Him with people who I know I will get approval from or who can“understand”. In other words, I have resorted to preaching to the choir solely because of the fact that during the course of my Christian life, I have met individuals who actually make fun of, scorn, insult and mock His name.

I am so tired of having to meet insult after insult from such individuals and trying to answer their list of questions that, I have to admit, I am not equipped to answer. It can get draining sometimes. It is so hard to share Him in a world that laughs and jeers at His very name.

There are times that I just want to throw in the towel. It makes me question, maybe I am not equipped for this or I don’t have what it takes to really go out there and be the woman He designed me to be.

Then He shakes me up. He brings a particular person in my life who needs Him. He presents me special circumstances that say, “Don’t give up now. You are doing a good job, my child”.

And then I am me again. I can’t give up. Not now. Not after all the things He has done in my life and the lives of others. And though I fail Him so many times, I am hopeful in His love and promise: “Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.” – Deuteronomy 31:6

Back to the dinner party, our host asked a very profound question. If Jesus did indeed show up that night, I would have told Him this:

“My Lord, please don’t forget about me”.

One of the criminals who were hanged railed at him, saying, “Are you not the Christ? Save yourself and us!” But the other rebuked him, saying, “Do you not fear God, since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? And we indeed justly, for we are receiving the due reward of our deeds; but this man has done nothing wrong.” And he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.” And he said to him, “Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise.” – Luke 23:39-43



The Other Face of Marital Rape

I just read over the news that Filipina actress Sunshine Cruz pressed charges against husband Cesar Montano for abuse, one of which is marital rape. I’ve also discovered that both are Christians.

Marital rape in a Christian home? I am beyond shocked.

Marital rape can happen in a variety of ways, some not even through physical force but through the twisted use of religion.

I’m sure you know where I am going at here.

You know what sickens me most? Using religion as a form of psychological control. There are so many stories of false teachers (cults, etc.), even lay people, who deliberately twist scripture to gain an advantage in whatever circumstance they have. They take scripture out of context to prey on trusting victims and con them off their money, sense of dignity, self-respect, you name it.

In the Book of Ephesians, there is this line that states “Wives submit to your husbands” (verse 22).

For the longest time, this line has bothered me. Scripture was supposed to protect both parties and not only cater to the male demographic. Some misinformed males jump right in on that verse and think that they can get away with anything at home.

For everybody’s information, and thanks to fellow blogger Dan Lacich, marriage is not so scary given that both man and woman are informed of the complete verse. Read and digest carefully, folks:

Wives and Husbands

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesian 5:21-33)

So, wives (and wives-to-be), let me tell you this: The man is to care and love your body as he is supposed to care and love his. You are to be “without stain, wrinkle, blemish, but holy and blameless”. There are no exceptions.

Once, I heard a Christian guy mention something as a joke: “Woman, submit!” (similar to that of a trainer who teaches his dog to sit, stay or play dead). Also, another married friend mentioned to me that she doesn’t say no to her husband because it’s “not allowed”. So she gives in even if she doesn’t feel like doing it.

Being misinformed or not really knowing what scripture says can be dangerous. The mere thought of it makes me want to throw up.

The thing with marriage is that everything is a gamble. You will never know what your potential spouse’s character is like unless both of you live under one roof.

So what is the gauge? Are there any red flags single women should be looking at to protect themselves?

Personally, temperament has been one for me. Find out how he gets angry. Ask yourself, is he domineering? Controlling? Test him. Push him once in a while and get a reaction from him. If you have to date him for years, do so! It’s best to be informed and knowledgeable of what you’re getting into than regret everything in the end.

Besides, don’t you think your life and future is worth the careful “choosing”?

Other than that tip, I’m all ears.

Recommended reads:
He uses RELIGION on you
Provocative Christian Verses: Wives Submit!
Marital Rape, a controversial issue

A Single Woman’s Perspective


Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
1 Peter 3:4

For single Christian men who are reading this, let me give you the inside dope:

I ain’t these things, homie.

So, feel free to move on.

My personality and temperament is not wired like this.

I get angry when provoked. I am playful and giddy when happy. I am honest to a fault. And from time to time, I get sad as well. In other words, I am all woman.

I don’t apologize for these things. With God’s grace, I am perfectly okay with who I am today.

I know I will ruffle a few feathers here (and I know my Christian friends will forgive me nonetheless for this boldness), but I honestly don’t have any plans of becoming a Pastor’s wife.

I want to be the wife of a decent human being who is secure in his spiritual walk with the Lord. Men who are legalistic robots are not for me.

With God in the center of our relationship, I would want my future husband to focus on our marriage and our family. That’s it. I don’t think that’s asking too much.

The reason I am writing this is because in as much as women want everything perfect: A Godly husband, family, stable finances, etc. we all have to live with non-believers. And to box oneself in a particular group will hinder growth.

You want to improve on your spiritual walk? Go out and meet new people!

I noticed that I pray harder and rely more on the Lord when I am in the midst of non-Christians.

If the Lord does give me a good, stable and secure man, then thanks a lot! I don’t deserve it but huge, huge thanks!

In the meantime, I will enjoy God’s greatest gift to me: My Vibrant Single Life 😉

Strength in Weakness

The past few weeks have been a constant struggle for me.

My faith is continuously put to the test. My endurance and tenacity are both wearing thin. I have been loosing sleep and though I would want to keep a positive outlook on things, at times, I can’t help but ask why me?

I am trying the best I can. My heart is filled with anger, so much anger right now. I feel it consuming me again.

I am just glad that I am surrounded by my accountability partners to keep me guided, focused and directed. Their patience and love for me, I don’t know where they get it but I am thankful for them. They help keep my path straight.

It’s funny how things work out. When things get rough, there will always be someone either calling me, taking me out to dinner, letting me spend the night or have someone deliver a special package to my building (you all know who you are). They just pop out of the blue. It’s like they know for some reason, it’s incredible. I don’t know, probably God is there to tell me to hang on a bit, and I do.

In your weakest, that’s when He’s doing His greatest work.

I pray that He give me the strength and courage to soldier on. Help me run the race, Lord. I need you now more than ever.

Lessons I Learned From The Godfather

The Godfather is the I-ching. The Godfather is the sum of all wisdom. The Godfather is the answer to any question. What should I pack for my summer vacation? “Leave the gun, take the cannoli.” What day of the week is it? (insert Sicilian accent) “Mo-nday, Tu-esday, Thur-sday, We-dnesday.”

Though the movie was a masterpiece, the book provides better detail, strength and ferocity only Mario Puzo can pen. The Godfather is the best. Below is a compilation of all my favorite quotes.Enjoy!

On family: “A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” – Don Corleone

On love: “You can’t hide the thunderbolt. When it hits you, everybody can see it. Christ, man, don’t be ashamed of it, some men pray for the thunderbolt. You’re a very lucky fellow.” – Calo

On profession: “Lawyers can steal more money with a briefcase than a thousand men with guns and masks.” –Don Vito Corleone

On friendship: “Friendship is everything. Friendship is more than talent. It is more than the government. It is almost the equal of family.”- Don Corleone

On gratitude: “Time erodes gratitude more quickly than it does beauty!”

On decision-making: “Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgment.”

On society: “I don’t trust society to protect us, I have no intention of placing my fate in the hands of men whose only qualification is that they managed to con a block of people to vote for them.”

On Godfathers:Italians have a little joke, that the world is so hard a man must have two fathers to look after him, and that’s why they have godfathers.”

On business: “Tom, don’t let anybody kid you. It’s all personal, every bit of business. Every piece of shit every man has to eat every day of his life is personal. They call it business. OK. But it’s personal as hell. You know where I learned that from? The Don. My old man. The Godfather. If a bolt of lightning hit a friend of his the old man would take it personal. He took my going into the Marines personal. That’s what makes him great. The Great Don. He takes everything personal Like God. He knows every feather that falls from the tail of a sparrow or however the hell it goes? Right? And you know something? Accidents don’t happen to people who take accidents as a personal insult.” – Michael Corleone