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The Cost Of Friendship: How Much Are You?

Just a little over breakfast, my dad was complaining about a friend who would not pay back money he owed him. He mentions that this person would completely disregard their friendship just for a measly few hundred pesos.

Over the years and through experience as well, I have come to the conclusion that money is the best instrument to test a person’s character, or in this case, the authenticity of a friendship. And quite surprisingly, I have met people who have failed this test time and time again.

I don’t borrow money. Not because I have an abundance of it, but because my pride gets in the way (which, I must admit, is a work in progress on my end). I cannot fathom the fact that I borrow money, even from my parents. If I have to work 2-3 jobs, then so be it. Call it whatever you want, I refuse to ask for money. But give me a job that pays, then I am up for it. Money is something I value. I value it because of what it represents: good, honest hard work. I can say, in full conviction, everything that I have bought and invested on comes from my God-given, money-making brain.

This is why it astounds me that some people can just easily ask for dole outs when they know they are fully capable of earning/making it.

I am not the one to point fingers, but I have observed that some would even use the power of your friendship for money, connections and status. This is a reality we all have to live with and I am extremely careful of.

So how do I test the authenticity of friendship? What better barometer than money.

This belief of mine is summed up well in the book of Luke: He, who is faithful in a very little thing, is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much (16 v. 10).

Scripture points out to the very quality of having Great Character: Integrity.

How much does my friendship cost? It costs nothing. The pleasure of my company (or lack of it), costs nothing. But let me tell you this, good and real friendships should not cost you a cent. In fact, friendships are one of the best pleasures in life that are free!

And if you failed the money litmus test, then you not only lost a good friend but you sold yourself as well and for what? For a measly, few hundred pesos.