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To Progress or Regress: The Choice is Yours

Some people may say I am alpha female. Probably I am, in some aspects.

I think I am alpha female when it comes to work. I like to keep busy. I like to earn my own keep. I am focused and want what’s best from this life. I don’t sit idly by letting money fall on my hands. I am not wired to sleep all day, asking for dole outs from my parents or family members. That is not me. I have too much energy to focus on watching TV or playing video games all day long. I don’t let things happen to me. I make things happen!

And honestly, I just don’t understand people who do the opposite.

In this life, its either you progress or regress. And this has got absolutely nothing to do with being Alpha. As human beings, we are intrinsically wired for progress.

I am nearing my 30’s and so far, I am looking at what I’ve personally achieved so far. I’ve noticed that some people have no sense of urgency. They think money grows on trees and that family will always be there to support them. Newsflash: No they won’t!

What is happening to this generation? Are we that spoiled rotten? Why is there a sense of entitlement? Isn’t this supposed to be the healthiest and smartest generation? Then why all the professional couch surfing? Able-bodied, intelligent but lacking in work? Listen, talent is over rated. We need results. Where are you now in your life? What have you contributed to this world?

I have also heard the “This is my life. I will do whatever I want with it” excuse a dozen times. Fact: Relationships are interconnected. If you think that what you do (or don’t do) has any effect, it does. Sooner or later, your laziness/self-entitlement behaviour/pride/etc. will catch up and your family will bear the brunt of your life’s choices.

It pains me to see so much human potential go to waste. It’s like watching someone die slowly. It doesn’t matter if you’re a brilliant artist, designer, programmer, etc. My question is: Are you putting your skills to good use? Will you leave this world (or your family) any better after your gone? Think about that for a second.

I greatly admire people,even those who didn’t finish school, that are trying their best to make a decent living. That’s the kind of crowd I want to associate with. They want to succeed. They want progress. They want out.

I just hope I am reaching the people who want the same things in this life: love, financial freedom and independence.

The hand of the diligent will rule, while the slothful will be put to forced labor. – Proverbs 12:24

Personal and Professional: The Big Difference

For me, there are fat months and there are lean months.

Obviously, for the fat months I make sure resources are utilized well: saving, investing, and sharing.

What do I do with the lean months? I stay at home and take the role of a hermit.

Paula the Hermit, now that’s a sight.

Kidding aside, I have always been a staunch believer in putting my money where my mouth is.

Truth: Money comes and goes. For me, money has always been a tool, a resource, if you must. There is also truth that money puts food on the table, pays the bills, etc. But as much as possible, I don’t let these things get to my head or it will consume me.

If I can’t afford it, or if there is inner turmoil from my end, I don’t pursue a money-making endeavor anymore.

I believe I am quite generous with my time and resources. I try to share them as much as I can, sometimes even at a loosing end. There also comes a time that my generosity results in a deficit by the end of month. But I don’t regret my actions as long as they foster positive relationships as a whole.

I invest not only in monetary vehicles but in people as well. My biggest asset? My relationships. I make sure that my relationships (professional or otherwise) are all well taken care of, after all, they are the very people who bring me opportunities.

So sometimes, it just burns me when a good client or potential prospect deems me unreliable or unprofessional. I really take it to heart. If I can’t deliver, I might as well end the professional relationship there.

I can be very hard on myself sometimes, especially if I get a disappointing email from a valued client/colleague.

I make it a point to walk my talk. However, especially for the recent weeks, there were circumstances that were beyond my control. Currently, I am working on four separate accounts, all in four different industries!  One of them holds the biggest part of my income. But nonetheless, I try to be fair to everybody, giving them my time, resources and talents. But sometimes things don’t work out, even if I work till the wee hours of the morning, things will not always go according to plan.

More than the fear of loosing potential income, I am also scared of loosing the confidence and trust people have in me. My name is one of the things I highly value in this business. Aside from my relationships, my professional reputation is one of my biggest assets.

So what’s the difference between professional and personal affairs? For me, there is none.